So there are about three and a half months left until the wedding. I spent most of the last month a little overwhelmed, obsessing about bridesmaids dresses, reception decor, and invitations. And honestly, I hated it. It’s amazing how many small details there are to consider when planning a wedding. Many times I thought, “I’d rather just get it over with and spend the time with Devin.” But then I realized the importance of a wedding.
A wedding ceremony is something very serious. Sure, you don’t want to go into debt or go crazy planning one, but the tradition needs to be respected. For centuries, people have been declaring their desire to take a spouse before actually doing so. In the old testament of the Bible, there are references to men making a verbal declaration that they are “taking a wife,” and later consummating that marriage. Even today, we make that same verbal declaration. We do it in a ceremony in front of loved ones to make it official. I’ve realized that declaration is so important because it’s publicly making a covenant with God. You’re promising to keep your word to God and allowing others to hold you accountable for that decision. Our love in marriage should mimic God’s love for us.
“God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it?” (Numbers 23:19)
Now you may be wondering how I came to this realization. Well, it was while watching a wonderful movie called “Fireproof.” It’s a film written, produced, and directed by Christians. It also has a cast of Christian actors, including Kirk Cameron from the 1990s sitcom “Growing Pains” (I always wondered what happened to him).
So while still having a common plot, it still remains God-centered. It talks about taking the vow of marriage seriously. It also shows how the only way you can truly love someone else is to understand the love of God. If you don’t understand it, once you do…you’ll find it is difficult, but truly an amazing thing.
I recommend everyone watch this movie, even if you’re not married, engaged or in a relationship.
Here’s the official trailer for Fireproof:
I enjoyed watching it with you and still think about how much I loved seeing the change in main character. The Lord has given us a lot of help with knowing how to do this thing the right way, and I look forward to growing old with you.
You’re my best friend, honey,
- Devin